Issue #56

What’s Beneath the Surface: How Shadow Work Fuels Self-Leadership and Personal Growth

this week's focus

We don’t rise to the level of our goals—we fall to the level of our patterns.

Even the most accomplished, driven women sometimes feel like they’re circling the same struggles: procrastination that doesn’t make sense, tension in relationships, or an inner critic that just won’t let up.

And here’s what most won’t say out loud:

"I’ve done the mindset work. I’ve read the books. Why does this still keep happening?"

The answer isn’t in working harder. It’s in looking deeper.

Hers's Why Smart, Successful Women Still Feel Stuck

You’ve likely achieved a lot by leaning on strengths like perfectionism, independence, and self-control. But over time, those very strategies can morph into survival patterns—ones that were formed in response to earlier experiences, expectations, or wounds.

This is where shadow work comes in. It’s not about darkness. It’s about awareness. About reclaiming the pieces of yourself you’ve been told were too much, not enough, or inconvenient.

Let's Talk About The Patterns We Rarely Talk About

Shadow work invites you to look at the subconscious beliefs driving your decisions:

• Why do I over-prepare, even when I know I’m ready?
• Why do I avoid hard conversations, even when I lead a team?
• Why do I seek validation, even when I’ve earned my seat at the table?

These questions don’t signal weakness. They reveal readiness. A readiness to lead not just externally—but internally.

Self-Leadership Begins With Self-Awareness

True leadership isn’t about doing more. It’s about being more aware.

When you begin to notice what’s driving your behaviors, emotions, and triggers, you gain access to deeper choices. You lead from clarity rather than compulsion. From intention rather than instinct.

Shadow work supports personal growth, emotional intelligence, and decision-making—the very things high-achieving women need not just to succeed, but to feel fulfilled doing it.

Your Next Step: Get Curious, Not Critical

This week, I invite you to pause and reflect: What patterns might be running the show behind the scenes?

If you’re curious, I’ve created a resource just for this kind of inner exploration. It’s called:

$17.00 Out Of Darkness: Shadow Work Journal (and bonus) Get it now!

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A beautifully guided, practical tool to help you:

• Uncover limiting beliefs
• Work through past emotional blocks
• Reconnect with the full spectrum of who you are

Or, if you want real-time support:

One powerful call to unpack what’s keeping you stuck and design a clear next move. Perfect for high-level women who want clarity now.

Questions What’s one behavior or pattern you keep repeating—even though you know better—and what might it be trying to protect you from?

Your Challenge This Week Spend 10 quiet minutes journaling about a moment this week that triggered you. Don’t try to fix it. Just ask: What’s beneath this? See what surfaces.

If something in this newsletter resonated—pause and follow the thread. Explore the Shadow Work Journal or book a Your Move call. Either one is a meaningful next step if you’re ready to stop circling and start leading. Let’s make this a week of transformation.

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